The Hottest Swinger Dating Profile Guide

There can be a few reasons why you are looking to make yourself a spicy swinger dating profile. Are you dipping your toes in for the first time? Looking to join a new swinger dating site and start out fresh? It is also possible that you have done everything possible to make your profile stand out but still have a dry inbox. There might be a tiny bit of you that have never made a dating profile before. You all deserve to have a dating profile that gets you full satisfaction.

Dating Profile Structure

Several online swinger sites allow you to hop right into the action with just a username, password, and verifiable email address. There is nothing wrong with jumping right into social mingling. This is completely understandable if you are looking to spend a good amount of time getting the details right and just perfect and then spend five minutes interacting on the platform and realizing it's just not for you… Ouch.

Between the time you get the verification email and the time you make your profile 100% perfect, take a good look at other profiles. This is the best way to find inspiration, especially if you aren't familiar with filling out bios. How inclined are you to message a member who has less than 5 words on their profile or no photo? So it probably isn't the look you want to go for when creating yours.

When you come across the more mature and seasoned swingers, their profiles will most likely have the best ideas. They have tried what works and what doesn't, plus there are certain phrases that you just don't know how to word the right way sometimes. Members who have been a part of the swinger lifestyle for a good amount of time know exactly how to get the message across.

There are a few bits of information that any online dating site will ask you to fill out. You can expect to spend anywhere from 3 minutes to over an hour on your profile, this is entirely up to you. Also, you can kind of fly through the profile setup and then return back to adding info to your profile later. You aren't required to have a detailed bio, but it sure does help a lot!

Username & Password

Your username is more powerful than you may think. It is recommended to use an alternate name on your profile and not your actual name. This information is better shared in person anyways. But this is how your matches will remember who you are. An example of a bad username: DTF123, this has absolutely no creativity and really shows what the person will be like in the sack. You should also avoid usernames like: StacyFromMiami02, this is a little TMI, and while it may not be simple, a determined person can find a Stacy that lives in Miami and graduated in 2002 (or was born that year… they are old enough) An example of a good username: ComePlayWithUs, this is super easy to remember and lets you know right away what kind of member(s) they are.

When it comes to a password, a majority of swinger dating sites will require a 'strong' password with capitals, symbols, and a number.

Questionnaires

The one thing that you hope for when looking through a profile bio is how much detail they put into it. This isn't 1998 Yahoo! Chat where you can just put a/s/l (age, sex, location) and 2 minutes later be flooded with messages. Most likely, the main reason is that there are too many untrustworthy people in this world. It's fair to say that we have all wasted too much time on a potential suitor just to find out they are not anywhere near who they say they are.

Sites like Kasidie and AdultFriendFinders Purity test help you add the right information to your bio. You are going to push more people away by having too little info in your bio. To give you an idea of how fun and helpful these prompts and questions can be to your profile, here's what you'll be getting into:

What is your preferred relationship style (e.g., polyamorous, swinging, open relationship)
Describe your ideal polyamorous/swinger relationship.
What sexual fantasy are you determined to experience?
On a scale from 1 to 10, how important is communication in your relationships?
What are your boundaries and deal breakers in a polyamorous/swinger relationship?
How do you handle jealousy or insecurity in a relationship?
What are your favorite activities to share with a partner or partners?
How do you practice consent and ensure everyone feels comfortable in a relationship?
What are your hobbies and interests outside of your relationships?
On a scale from 1 to 10, how important is sexual compatibility in your relationships?

How long have you been together, and how did you decide to explore polyamory/swinging?
What are your shared relationship goals and desires?
Describe your ideal polyamorous/swinger relationship as a couple.
On a scale from 1 to 10, how important is trust in your relationships?
What boundaries and agreements do you have in place as a couple?
How do you handle jealousy or insecurity within your relationship?
What are your favorite activities to share with other partners or couples?
How do you ensure everyone's consent and comfort in your relationships?
What are your shared hobbies and interests outside of your relationships?
On a scale from 1 to 10, how important is emotional connection in your relationships?

Swinger Dating Profile Do's

1. The #1 RULE of any dating profile is to be honest. Seriously, this cannot be stressed enough! Now that more platforms are integrating features that allow other members to rate your profile.. You will not be able to get away with putting embellished information in your bio for too long.
2. Most swinger sites allow couples to sign up under one account to make it easier to communicate with other members. These types of accounts will usually prompt you to enter information about yourself and your partner. But you also more than welcome to have two separate accounts. Just make sure you mention that in your bio.
3. There is nothing bad about listing every single one of your sexual desires and fantasies, but for those of us that have a pretty extensive list, it's best to stick to 3-5 solid desires and optionally mention a few acts that you really aren't into trying.
4. If you are going to list your location in your profile (which most of us do) and are hesitant about doing so, select the closest main city as your location. For one, your search will include way more people; for two, a 20-minute drive to the city is better than someone knowing your exact location.

Swinger Dating Profile Do Nots

The swinger community is open and welcoming to everyone's wants and desires. We all understand that this lifestyle comes with some crazy kinks and fetishes that others aren't comfortable with. This is very much respected.
Please, do not be aggressive. When it comes to kinks or fetishes you mention on your profile, don't call out the ones you DON'T like. Saying things like "We don't do none of that nasty golden shower freaky shi*" will instantly kick you out of the very accepting community. Seriously though, which sounds more inviting: "WILL NOT TOLERATE DISGUSTING SMOKERS OR FLIMSY CHICKS UNDER 150 POUNDS!!” or "Prefer to play with non-smokers and have a strong liking for big beautiful women"?
Don't make yourself out to be a product or used car. Letting members know your height, weight, age, and physical characteristics is great, but that shouldn't be the only thing that you are offering.
You should make yourself stand out like a shiny brand-new car. What do you have to offer that no other new or used car can do? Great massages, love to salsa dance, prefer leather over lace? If you are new to the scene, you will likely get a lot more attention, so don't be afraid to mention it. Boasting about experiences that never happened or saying you are into something without knowing it will cause a huge mess for yourself. Just be honest.

Swinger Dating Site Profile Lingo

You will notice profiles with a list of abbreviations, these are very well-known throughout the online dating community. MILF (mom I'd like to f***) is simpler and to the point than actually writing it out and the context getting lost in a heaping paragraph of words. Here is just a couple of abbreviated lingo you may see on someone's profile:

Vanilla - not in the lifestyle
Vanilla Swirl - knows about lifestyle and supportive
Full Swap - both partners and another couple sex
Soft Swap - both partners and another couple no intercourse
MFM- 2 male 1 female
FMF - 2 female 1 male
On-Premise - swing clubs or events that have accommodations for allowing sex on the site.
HWP - height and weight proportional. This is something someone will put on their bio or will be mentioned during a club promotion that is advertising "perfect" women
GBM - gay black male
GWM - gay white male
MBC - married black couple
MBiC - married bi couple
MWC - married white couple
SBF - single black female
SBiF - single bi female
SRS - same room sex
SWF - single white female
SWM - single white male
FWB - friends with benefits
DDF - drug and disease free
Twink - hot and young gay male
Unicorn - single female wanting to join couples
VWE - very well endowed
W/E - well endowed
Hall Pass - just this one time
BSP/Backstage Pass (or white list) to see your private albums on the site

Swinger Dating Site Profile Photo

This is the bread and butter to your profile. Your bio can be Grade-A outstanding with all the details, but if your profile pic is crap… your not going to have the best of luck. Some members can have a very basic bio but a quality profile photo and get matches no problem.

The best advice for the perfect profile photo is to look at boudoir photo shoots. They are classy, sensual, and you don't have to be naked or show your face. Having an innocent photo of yourself is highly recommended for your main featured photo. Some sites will offer extra albums for free or part of the premium membership. You can load these 'private' albums up with all of the risqué and X-rated pictures you want.

Private albums can have videos and images,. plus you have control over who has access to them and who doesn't (usually free members are censored from these photos to begin with). Sites like SDC and SwapFinder host features that allow you to highlight your profile and showcase it on the main page. Your pic is going to be the first thing any member notices, make sure it is eye-catching!